It seems like a lot of emotional suffering stems from confusing attachment with love.
Attachment is about fear and dependency, and has more to do with love of self than the love of another. Love without attachment is the purest love and is life giving because it isn’t about what others can give you because you’re empty. It’s about what you can give others because you’re already full.
We can’t give away what we do not have. Loving well begins with receiving love well, that is from the extravagant love of God. Then love yourself well by forgiving yourself and accepting yourself in spite of the flaws.
Then give that love to others just because you want to. It’s what people need.