From the book It’s Not My Fault by Henry Cloud and John Townsend:
Why doesn’t everyone who encounters failure pick himself up and try again? Why does one woman get rejected on a couple of dates then go on to find the love of her life, while another who gets rejected, quits? Why does one person make a sales call, get rejected, and later that month land the big account, while another gives up? The answer: one has normalized failure and learned how to deal with it, while the other has not. Let’s look at why and how.
Let’s explore a few questions to check your present thinking on what happens when you fail.
What do you feel when you fail? (In other words, when you are rejected for a date or do not close the deal or your venture goes belly up.)
Do you feel bad and get deflated? (Not mere disappointment, but a judgment about yourself that plunges you into immobilizing emotional states.)
Does all hope go out of you? (A feeling that things will never be any different.)
Do you tell yourself that you are a loser? (Internal dialogue leads you to pin a global, critical label on yourself.)
Do you think that success is for others and not you? (You feel you are missing something that others have.)
Do you think that there is just no answer for your dilemma? (It’s beyond anything you can learn or grow into, no matter how hard you try.) Continue reading “Find Out What Failing Means to You”